Friday, January 24, 2014

Life’s Tough But I’m Tougher!



If you follow me on social media like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. you’ll see that I tend to focus on the positive, that’s just how I am. I don’t try to put up a front like everything in my life is perfect but I also won’t dwell on the negative, it’s not healthy and gets you nowhere! It’s not a cover up it’s just that I’ve chosen to express myself on those sites through my positive thoughts, the people I love, things I enjoy doing, etc. instead of what’s always going wrong. I have friends I can discuss those issues with because I know they genuinely care or I simply reflect by myself. These sites aren’t the place to air out everything but some people do which is ok but it’s not what I do. On social sites you open up doors to “appear” weak to people who know nothing more about you than what’s on your pages and honestly some people could care less what your problems are or may even receive satisfaction in seeing you at your lows. When I think of social media I think of a place for sharing ideas, pictures, networking, and socializing...not “Oprah” stories, not a place we seek advice from out of a list of hundreds of "friends" that we don't even talk to on a consistent basis. There’s nothing wrong with posting about a bad day, we all have our struggles, but it should not be the constant topic and/or it should be delivered in an empowering way. So I challenge you to be more positive in your postings and in your everyday life, we’re all going to experience some sort of struggle at some point and sometimes it will feel like that's all you experience but don’t let it define who you are!

I’ve had my fair share of unfortunate turn of events and I could very easily bombard everyone’s news feed with my sob stories but I won’t. I’ve got 2 blogs that I use to address my “downs” when I feel like writing about them because it's become one of my stress relievers, it's more personable for sharing certain topics than the other sites. These days my mind constantly overflows with an infinite array of thoughts, worries, confusion, decisions, and randomness so writing really does help me. I’ve learned that at the end of the day I have to be my own biggest supporter and I think that’s the best way to be. Yes we all want our family, friends, and significant other there for us but if they can’t be (for whatever reason) it’s important to learn to depend on yourself, you know what’s best for you and nobody else has the power of really knowing but you! Sometimes others may not know HOW to be there for you, and it’s not their fault but you’re going to feel that way because only you really know how to handle yourself through certain situations.

This picture is one of my daily reminders to keep pushing through the rough days, lately there have been many so I turn to any and everything that will help me remain optimistic. Some people may get tired of all the optimism you show but that’s ok, that shouldn't stop you from continuing to think that way. Never let other people’s opinions influence what you know is right for you; you’re not here to please others. Oddly enough I’ve learned to smile more at others these days, it’s not to deceive anyone but rather my effort of remaining strong and trying to keep it together even though inside I feel everything falling apart. Sometimes I’m a girl with a heavy heart, a messy soul, and a reckless mind...I’m still guilty of complaining about life not going as I envisioned it but I choose not to carry myself that way because I’m trying to have a better understanding that ANY struggle we have is intended to strengthen us. There will be blessings on the other side of the storm, strength comes from your journey and that’s something else I have to remind myself of when I’m down. I know that I should thank God for not only my successes but my struggles as well. Life is tough but you have to learn to be tougher…and also have FAITH!! Remaining positive through life’s struggles is not easy without HIM. I leave you with the below quote and article:

“When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else”  – Iyanla Vanzant

How Strong Is Your Faith?


~StateOfBeauty
~Learn to see the beauty in imperfection~

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